My ex left his stuff in my apartment??? Calls me about the most random things?? What do you think?

So here's the deal. I was dating this guy for two years. We were supposed to get married in December. We broke up about 3 months ago b/c of my mom (can be overbearing) he says and if we were meant to be we will end up back together....w/e...





Ever since he and I broke up, he's been calling me about the most random things (i.e. Are you going to homecoming (we both graduated from the same university), how's your mom, did I leave something at your apartment---he did leave a whole bunch of crap in my apartment like dvd's, clothes, etc.





He asks me why I don't call him, do I still love him, blah blah blah... I got a call today, and he said he's been dating someone else...However, he claims that he doesn't want to date her and he really wants to get married and have kids...He asked me, if still being in love with me and missing me counts for anything. I said no...





Tell me ...what do you think is his angle/what do you think about the situation and how would you handle it...?

My ex left his stuff in my apartment??? Calls me about the most random things?? What do you think?
Time for you to cut ties with him completely.





Send him a registered letter (return receipt requested) stating that he has left property in your home and that it will be donated to Goodwill if not picked up by 5 p.m. on (insert a date 30 days from the date of the letter). This protects you if he doesn't pick up his crap. Other than coordinating the return of his stuff, you owe him no further conversation.





His angle is that he won't face facts.
Reply:Put all his things in a box and take it round to him. This will make it clear that you do not want anything to do with him anymore.
Reply:Give a day and time to pick up his things.HAVE SOME ONE WITH YOU WHEN HE COMES.


if he don't pick it up move it to a shed or storage.Tell him if he come get it you will charge him storage..


He's leaving it there so he can move back in at a later time after he's finished running around


TELL THE GUY TO SUCK IT UP AND MOVE


ON WITH HIS CRUMMY LIFE.
Reply:He probably wants to see if you are open to eventually taking him back, if he decides that is what he wants to do in the future. It's like leaving a foot in the door, so to speak. He wants to keep you as an option in case whatever things don't work out with other women he goes out with. Kind of a sad position to put you in, like something to fall back on.
Reply:the best way to get the message across to him would be to take all of his things out of your apartment..maybe then he will get the hint..and stop taking his calls...
Reply:He cant let go he still wants to be with you
Reply:Right now he wants to keep his foot in the door. As far as getting married, him not be able to handle your mom was just an excuse for having cold feet. I don't know how old the both of you are, but I would get on with my life without him. Geez . . . how would he handle real pressure? Good luck!
Reply:I think he's trying to get back together.


If you really feel you're through with him, pack his stuff, take it to him, and then stop answering his calls.
Reply:I think it is what it is. He wants to get back together and get married. If you have no intention of ever getting back with him, tell him straight out. Otherwise you may be stringing him along. In his mind right now, he is thinking there still may be a future. Do the guy a favor and tell him the truth so he can move forward in his life. Even if it does hurt him.





I would much rather someone be honest with me.
Reply:Booty call.


He still wants your booty.





Pack his stuff and give it all back to him so he has no reason to call you.





I got a call yesterday from an old bf I haven't seen in 25 years. They NEVER give up unless you are very mean.
Reply:it is obvious what his angle is. he wants to get back with you. the problem is that, you seem to not want to. if i were you, you better tell him what's YOUR angle. be honest but not blunt. try to understand that both of you have gone through much.
Reply:You need to ask yourself, do you still love him? Also, did you *only* break-up b/c your mom is overbearing, or are there underlying issues?





If you two do get back together, you need to have a little chat with your mom to let you guys be.
Reply:Thats simple. He was ok with the break up because he thought you would come crawling back, and he could have the upper hand. When you didn't, and you were ok with breaking up, he didn't like that at all. He left stuff at your place so that he could have a connection to you. He calls you about random things because he is lonely, and realizes what an idiot he is for letting you go, and not fighting harder for you when you broke up.


Mr. Macho said he was cool about breaking up, cuz I got a new girlfriend anyway. When he realized you didn't care, he then couldn't admit that he was lying about the new girl friend, so he just says I really dont want her, I want you.


I think he is a controllling, manipulative, creep, that is lying to you now, and will lie to you in the future as well. I think you MUST take this chance to get rid of him now. Let him beg you to take him back. If you do go back with him, at least he'll learn a lesson that he cant just do what he wants, when he wants it, cuz you will not tolerate it, and you will leave.


If you do go back with him later, you will enjoy the upper hand
Reply:It sounds like he really still likes you. I think you need to be honest with your feelings about him and move on. Honesty is the best policy. It isn't fair to keep him hanging on unless you still have feelings for him and if you do still want him around then tell him.
Reply:You sound like your over it. Pack all his crap and call him to pick it up. Make it very clear that your over it and he should move on with his life.
Reply:he still loves you, i think it's kind of normal. i would tell him that you don't love him any more, we broke up remember?
Reply:He wants to get back with you.....Maybe you should hear him out and see where he's coming from...He's sorry and he's trying to let you know...Have a heart.
Reply:Right now you are saying that becuase you are hurt..And I do understand.. I've been there and been through that.. You really do love him and you really do want to be with him, but you have to play that HARD role sometimes just to see where his mind is at... Don't answer his calls... He said if it's meant to be then ya'll will be back where you were.. Well let him make that happen.. Let him worry and see how it feels to not have you in his life.... Let him be concerned... I know it may be hard.. And the Azz hole knew that he left his stuff at the apt....He's just trying to get you to converse with him.....Don't fall for that! LOL.... Seriously work on you and try not to concentrate on him..
Reply:that suck babe tell him to git lost babe
Reply:throw his shi* away and pay the phone company to block his calls for harrassment... his angle is he wasnt really into the breakup and is unhappy with his rebound... tell him to grow up and if he wants to be friends give you time and space to remember who you are so you can be a friend to him
Reply:I always think out of sight, out of mind. Just be busy, take up a hobby if you have time. Gather his things together, hand them over to a friend who could then hold them for your ex. make out a list of pros and cons, see where you get the most marks out of each and then think about if you really want to go thru the hassle of a relationship. Sometimes it's good to be by yourself for a while, to see what things make you happy, sad, excited or upset. such as maybe on weekends you want to go explore musuems or travel around your town. Find some ground to get yourself ready the next time you want to date and find your real match. Good luck.
Reply:Give him another chance.....poor thing!!
Reply:well if u dont like him, tell him how u truly feel, but if your mom is the problem, kick her *** out. I kno its mean but WTF, ur mom shoul,d understand anyway
Reply:from what your saying seems as if he is missing you and trying to make sure noone is there taking up ur time that should be his.
Reply:OK, here's what you do. Pack up all his sh%t and put it in a big box and mail it to him. Tell him to leave you alone for the time being. If he truly cares about you, he will respect your wishes. It is wrong of him to jerk you around and call about the most stupid things, and then start dating someone else!!!!??? You need some perspective, and that only comes with time and space. Good luck.
Reply:It sounds like he wants to get back together. Pack all of his stuff up and put in front of your door. Text or call him first to let him know you are doing so, so that he can come and pick it up. That way he can't call or text you asking about his stuff because it will all be back in his possession.


If he really wants to be married and have a family then he wouldn't of broken off the engagement to begin with. I understand what a pain mothers can be ... but unfortunately most people don't get along with their mom-in-laws anyway.


If you are really done with this dude and really don't want him in your life at all, stop answering his call and texts, stop talking to him, don't see him, just let it go. I know that is easier said then done but sometimes it is what needs to be done.